My mom says this changed her life, and I to this day can’t believe the words came out of my mouth.
When I was 7, my great aunt and uncle who my mom was super close with her entire life were brutally murdered in an attempted robbery of their home. The murderer was the son of their neighbor – he had broken into the wrong home and freaked out and killed them in a panic.
She was devastated, obviously. I remember she wouldn’t tuck us in or eat dinner with us for months. She became a shell of the person she was before. Just wasn’t my mom anymore.
So one day, in my 2nd grade class, we were for some god given reason learning about coping skills and depression.
I didn’t know the specifics of what had happened at the age of 7 obviously, but apparently that day when my mom got home from work, I asked her if I could walk her out to the end of the driveway before she went on her run (REALLY long driveway). She of course agreed, and during this 5 minute walk to the end of the driveway the conversation went something like this:
Me: “Mom. You’ve been sad lately.”
Mom: “Yeah, I have honey. Mommy is just going through a lot of stuff right now.”
Me: “Because of Aunt xxx and Uncle yyy?”
-silence until we get to the end of the driveway-
Me: “Have you heard of coping skills?”
Mom: “Coping skills? Where did you hear that?”
Me: “We learned about coping skills in class today. When bad stuff happens people get sad. Sometimes they need help using their coping skills to feel better. I think you need coping skills.”
My mom basically broke down crying and laughing because how is this 7 year old saying this to me and hugged me. She assured me she would and told me to go back inside.
She admitted to me when I was much older that she didn’t know what would’ve happened to her if I hadn’t asked her to go get help. It’s honestly crazy to me because I have very little memory of the event beyond her story. I remember her being sad, and I remember her getting better, but I don’t remember being the reason for it.