The Facebook group Breastfeeding Mama Talk included a post in which someone shared a wedding invitation which asked that attending breastfeeding mothers only feed their children in the bathrooms. And immediately the internet wondered why that was anyone’s business.
“To all our mommies who are breastfeeding, we are thinking of you; we are sensitive to the fact you may need to breastfeed during our event, therefore we have designated an appropriate place for you to feed your baby so that you do not have to do so in public in front of our Family and Friends,” the note reads—emphasis theirs. “For your convenience we our accommodating you with a comfortable and private area with chairs and baby blankets in the ladies room. We request that you use this area when you are breastfeeding. Thank you.”
Yup, I’m sure it’s for the moms convenience. Anyway, the confused guest turned to the group for advice.
“This was in the invitation to my husband’s best friends wedding,” the mom wrote. “My husband is the best man so it will just be me in the crowd. We have had several arguments over ‘my’ breastfeeding ways and they have multiple times voiced that I need to go elsewhere to do that in ‘private!’ I was going to just be nice and let my best girl friend watch my two kids (ages 2 and 3 months) and she would wet nurse my youngest (she’s still nursing her 2 year old as well) because we haven’t found a bottle my youngest will take yet and wet nursing doesn’t bother me. Hubby and I were just gonna make it a date night… But apparently that wasn’t okay either. so I said would just bring my littlest baby to the wedding then, but no way in hell I will leave and nurse her in the bathroom (no matter how ‘nice’ they make it!) I don’t eat in the bathroom I’m not feeding my child in there!… I want to be ‘nice’ as possible but what should I do!? Go ahead and leave her with my friend (who by the way has nursed her multiple times) or take her!? Help!”
She ended up leaving her kids with her friend, according to Breastfeeding Mama Talk, even though most of the moms there said they would have probably just said “screw it” and stayed home. Personally, I’m not sure I’d be friends with someone who was THAT offended by the sight of me feeding my kid.