Mom's Brutally Honest Facebook Post On Parenting With Depression And Anxiety Is Going Viral

Cierra Fortner is a 21-year-old mother of one who suffers from depression, anxiety, and is a two-time suicide survivor. Parenting isn’t easy for anyone, let alone someone who suffers from mental health disorders. 

So when a Walmart employee recently complimented her on her son’s behavior, Fortner wanted to explain the issue she faces, but couldn’t find the words. Instead, she took to Facebook where her post has acquired more than 160,000 likes and 92,000 shares. 

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Fortner begins:

“Today I was at Walmart doing my weekly Friday shopping when the cashier says to me “I see you in here all the time, your kids are always dressed cute, behaving and you just seem to have it all together” at the time I just thanked her and giggled because that’s far from the truth but as I drove home there was more I wanted her to know about me.”

Fortner explained to the Kansas City Star that she has been battling depression since her mother died in 2010. And that a month after she gave birth to her son, Jayce, postpartum depression led her to attempt suicide. A few years later, she was diagnosed with a personality disorder. 

“I want her to know I battle a personality disorder everyday with anxiety and depression mixed and I’m a two times suicide survivor.”

“I want her to know that I can’t always get myself up off the couch to feed them anything more than frozen pizza and cereal.”

The Walmart employee made the comment on a bad day for Fortner. The compliment rang hollow, and Fortner decided to let her thoughts known when she got home. 

“I want her to know that my son is late for school 3 out of 4 days because I regularly forget what day and time it is, despite the toddler size calendar in my kitchen.”

“I want her to know I have those “I’m losing my shit” moments when I have to lock myself in the bathroom and cry.”

“I want her to know I wasn’t always the most active mom because I use to work 80 hours a week and go to school full time and Jayce spent many days and nights with his grandparents.”

“I want her to know that I hadn’t washed my hair in 3 days and my kids hadn’t had a bath in 2.”

But then, the post started going viral. Fortner says she’s been contacted by people around the world who are going through the same thing. The one line that clicked with other moms: her confession about locking herself in the bathroom to cry.

“I want her to know that I was trying to hurry out of there because I had forgot the diaper bag at home and Brenton was hungry.”

“I want her to know that once we got to the parking lot the “well behaved” child decided to stand up in the cart and I wasn’t paying attention and barely caught him as he almost hit the concrete.”

“But most importantly I want her to know I don’t have it together and may never have it all together. I don’t know a mother out there that has it all together but everything we do is done with love for our children and that right there makes you the perfect mom and in our children’s eyes we most definitely have it all together.”

“From one exhausted mom to another, you’re doing great, have that melt down, let your kids eat the crap out of that cereal and take care of yourself always.”

Fortner explained further:

“Mommies feel it a lot,” she said, “like they have to keep it together. Like if we don’t keep it together we’re failures. But it’s OK to have your moments to break.”

And yes, when she finished writing, she put the groceries away.

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We Just Learned What Owls Look Like Without Feathers And There's No Going Back

Generally speaking, knowledge is power. Why not learn as much as possible to become a more interesting, useful, and education person? You never know when certain information will come in handy. 

This clichéd wisdom, however, has its limits. Perhaps there are some areas we really don’t need to explore. There are things that can’t be unlearned once we’ve seen and absorbed them… And that knowledge may haunt us forever. 

Thanks to the Internet, we now know way too much about owls. 

It all began when entertainment writer and Twitter phenom Dana Schwartz noticed a particularly plump bird resting on boyfriend’s air conditioner in New York City. 

But the vigilant people of Twitter would not tolerate such bird body shaming without all the facts. 

All birds are beautiful, after all. 

That’s when Schwartz came to her senses. “I realized I had no idea what owls looked like without feathers,” Schwartz told Distractify.

So, she did some research: “The answer is…nightmares” she said. 

Graciously, she decided to share her important findings with the public. 

These findings left everyone rattled. So Twitter tried to make sense of it all.  

Who knew that cute chubby, owls were actually mutant dinosaurs of our nightmares?

Schwartz, herself, is not deterred. “I think they’re even cuter [now],” she says. 

Tragically, this information no one asked for spawned more photos of creepy, naked animals to haunt our nightmares. 

Cute animals will never be the same. You’re welcome. 

While we can’t promise any more frightening factoids about owls, we can suggest you absorb more of Schwartz’s wisdom in her book And We’re Off, available for preorder on Amazon

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Muslim Restaurant Owner's Payment Policy Is Going Viral For All The Right Reasons

Marché Ferdous is a Middle Eastern restaurant in Montreal, Canada, that serves shawarma and other delicacies. The owners, Yahya Hashemi and Ala Amiry, are originally from Iran and Iraq respectively. 

After living in Canada for 31 years, Hashemi wanted to find a way to give back. So a few months back, he put a sign on the restaurant door inviting anyone who can’t afford a meal to come in and have dinner on the house. And they’re now being praised on Facebook after someone spotted the sign and posted it. 

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Sean Jalbert posted the photos to Facebook and attracted some 6,000 shares and hundreds of comments praising the restaurant. He writes:

“Curious enough I walked in and pretend I had no money and asked for food. She didn’t ask anything, but said we welcome you and pick whatever you like, including anything I wanted to drink.”

“Made me smile and warm inside I paid for my food and told them they were awesome for doing this.”

“They said it wasn’t for the holiday season, but all the time they want to encourage helping each other through tough times. Absolutely incredible.”

Hashemi told BuzzFeed News that “we are happy for our small little contribution.” He said that his restaurant is a few doors down from a church, and a few years back, he started telling panhandlers to go to his restaurant and pay whatever they could afford if they were hungry. 

Word spread quickly, and three months ago, Hashemi decided to offer dinner to anyone who says they can’t afford to pay for free. 

Hashemi says that the decision stemmed from Canada being so welcoming to them and their Muslim faith to take care of the needy. “This is part of our faith, part of our belief,” he said. “This is what we do back home.”

But it’s not just homeless people who are coming to eat, Hashemi says he’s constantly getting new paying customers who want to support his business. (h/t buzzfeed)

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Donald Trump Is Going To Win According To Professor Who's Correctly Predicted Last 8 Elections

A year or so ago, most people thought that Donald Trump didn’t have any chance of being nominated as the Republican presidential nominee. Fast forward to the present day, and he’s giving Hillary Clinton a hard time in the polls, with a recent McClatchy-Marist poll putting Clinton just 7% ahead. In August, she had a 15% lead with registered voters. 

And now, Allan Lichtman, professor of History at American University, says that Trump is probably going to win come November. Why is this important news? Lichtman has correctly predicted the result of every presidential election since 1984. And he’s got a pretty solid method by which he chooses his bet. 

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Lichtman uses 13 true or false questions, which he calls “keys” for his prediction. He derived these key issues by which the general public make their decision by looking at every American presidential election from 1860 to 1980. 

Lichtman told The Fix that “the keys are phrased to reflect the basic theory that elections are primarily judgments on the performance of the party holding the White House. And if six or more of the 13 keys are false — that is, they go against the party in power — they lose. If fewer than six are false, the party in power gets four more years.”

The professor went on to explain that Obama’s relatively healthy approval rating of 58% won’t help Clinton because he deems her to be less charismatic. He also believes that many millennials will defy Clinton’s establishment politics and vote for candidates like Gary Johnson and Jill Stein. In fact, Lichtman laid out all the “keys” that the Democrats have lost to Donald Trump. 

Key 1 is the party mandate — how well they did in the midterms. They got crushed.

Key number 3 is, the sitting president is not running.

Key number 7, no major policy change in Obama’s second term like the Affordable Care Act.

Key number 11, no major smashing foreign policy success.

Key number 12, Hillary Clinton is not a Franklin Roosevelt.

Key number 13, Gary Johnson is expected to get more than 5% of the popular vote. 

Lichtman called Trump “a serial fabricator,” but added that this trait seems to be working in his favor. “Even when he tells the truth, such as, ‘Barack Obama really was born in the U.S.,’ he adds two lines, that Hillary Clinton started the birther movement,” he continued. 

He added that Trump is likely to break “patterns of history that have held since 1860.” Lichtman says it was that unpredictability that made this year’s prediction so difficult. “We’ve never had a candidate before who not just once, but twice in a thinly disguised way, has incited violence against an opponent,” he said. “We’ve never had a candidate before who’s invited a hostile foreign power to meddle in American elections.”

It’s for that reason, that although he predicts Trump will win, Lichtman does suggest the possibility of Trump shooting himself in the foot somehow. “Nobody should be complacent, no matter who you’re for, you gotta get out and vote,” he pleaded. 

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This Garden Is Going To Smell Like Dead Bodies Tonight, And That's A Good Thing

It isn’t often that not being able to smell a dead body in the room is a cause for concern.

But that was the case last week at the New York Botanical Garden in the Bronx, when the much anticipated and incredibly pungent bloom of the Corpse Flower (real name Amorphophallus Titanum) didn’t happen as scheduled.

After waiting nearly ten years for this particular one to bloom, the concern is understandable, though luckily things went smoothly today as the flower revealed its striking red interior and utterly foul stench.

The NYBG website gives us an idea as to how rare of a view this is:

“Each day of careful tending and feeding has led up to this moment: a brief yet glorious window in which the enormous plant (up to eight feet high) will unfurl, displaying the striking red interior and uncanny scent to which it owes its name. This is the first time that a blooming titan-arum has been put on display at the Garden since 1939.”

The event only lasts 24 to 36 hours, and the NYBG has extended their visiting hours and set up a livestream so no one would miss it


They will undoubtedly post a time-lapse video after the event

The first Corpse Flower found its way into their garden in 1932 and bloomed five years later.  It was adopted as the borough of the Bronx’ official flower soon after in honor of the bloom, and remained the official flower until it was replaced by the Daylily in 2001.

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