People Are Challenging Taylor Swift's Bad Girl Image And Their Stories Are Inspirational

Taylor Swift stans are not great about reading the room. While Swift has certainly produced some legitimate bops, her latest album has not been a critical success. People generally consider her a snake, and even if she is trying to make something of that with her new album, it doesn’t change wider public perception.

When Twitter user @xnulz asked “name a bitch badder than Taylor Swift” the Internet was ready with some answer.

Basically, everyone. At least according to twitter:

That was actually a very insightful list, full of women it’s worth looking up, and looking up to. And if you love Taylor Swift, that’s fine too!

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14 People Share Their Heartbreaking Deportation Stories

The United States is a nation of immigrants and a very young one at that. Immigration has taken center stage in recent months, mainly as a tool to leverage voters by politicians who otherwise have conflicting interests with their current or potential constituents. 

While everybody wants to come over and start their lives in the United States legally, the process to do so takes years and costs thousands of dollars. As a result, people that come to visit overstay their visas and have to look over their shoulder while they try to expedite the processing of their paperwork.

These immigrants, who are now illegal, can go on living years in the US before either gaining residency or being deported. They get married, have kids, work long hours and usually hold very labor intensive jobs. That along with no access to healthcare or any type of government assistance program is still, in their eyes, a better life than the one they left to come here.

As you know, these people either end up gaining residency, or they get deported. These anonymous whispers come from the latter, people whose lives have been turned upside down after having a family member or themselves plucked out of their lives. Check out their stories below/

  1. My husband was deported two days after I gave birth to his son. Being a single parent is difficult. America the country that separates families :/
  2. Doesn't it sucks that my mom is alive and that I can't see her because she got deported when I was 11. Trying to save enough to see her is hard
  3. My ex girlfriend accused me of beating my own son when in fact it was her aunt that was doing it. I spent a year in prison fighting the case and then I was deported. I will never see my son again.
  4. The worst news ever was getting a call from my best friend and him telling me that his parents got deported. My family took my best friend in to live with us while his parents work on their paperwork
  5. when I was a toddler, my dad was deported to his country. only communication I have is FB. & he doesn't know how to spell my name.
  6. My dad was deported to Africa when I was 2 but he still contacts me everyday to see how I'm doing and ask about my day
  7. I want to go to Mexico and see my father. He was deported. If I could only hear his voice and give him a hug.
  8. Its been 4 years since my dad was deported and it still hurts to see my mom work a job that pays her $ 1000 per month and barely get by, i had to take up a job just to help out and move back in
  9. My dad used to be in the US all my life, then in 2012 he was deported & only get to see him once a year when I get vacation days. I keep all that pain bottled up of not being able to see him everyday.
  10. My mother was deported 7 years ago. I haven't seen her in 7 years. I miss her so much! What I would give to just hug her again!
  11. My Dad has been deported back to Mexico in 2013. Now that Donald Trump is president, I'm probably never going to see him in person again😢
  12. I got deported from the states even though I'd been there since I was 2. Probably gonna go live in Canada now
  13. I got deported from the United states after living there since I was 2.... Broken system over there.
  14. My dad just got deported... I always thought criminals were the only ones to get deported. My dad only got a speeding ticket and now he's gone...

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These Stories Of Horrible Roommates Offer Some Red Flags To Look For Before Signing A Lease

Roommates. When moving somewhere, having one is taken into consideration for no reason other than to increase our quality of life. The average American spends roughly one-quarter of their paycheck on rent and utilities, and having that extra 12.5% of your income freed up by splitting the month to month costs of simply existing with someone seems like a no-brainer. That is, of course, until you hear the nightmare stories people have about roommates.

Thankfully I’ve had a pretty positive experience with all of my roommates in college, but not everyone I knew was lucky. The worst I’ve experienced was having a suitemate that you could smell through the walls. As bad as that was, I wasn’t the one that had to live with him, and my roommate and I were treated to several late night rants by his roommate and some very high-end air fresheners in our shared bathroom that said roommate also purchased as a form of mercy for us and anyone that visited the suite.

Others weren’t so lucky. Perpetual house guests, bad hygiene, fighting, late with rent, and letting filth pile up were among the dozens of nightmare stories I’ve heard from friends on the topic. 

User ShallowTits on Reddit asked the community, “What are ‘red flags’ for roommates?” If you’re planning on sharing a place with one anytime soon, you’re definitely going to want to add these to your list.

  1. The number one offender that all refuse to deal with is the Kidult

    Mom moves him in while he watches. Mom sets his room up while he stares into his phone. Mom shops grocery andcooks it for him while he complains he’s hungry. Mom fills the fridge with pre-cooked meals while he eats. Mom cleans up everything and leaves.

    Congratulations! Now you’re his mom.

    juicius

    This is my most hated kind of person. Unfortunately it usually ends up being men. My #1 red flag for male roommatesAND potential boyfriends is if they are going from their mommy to me. Because inevitably you become their new mommy which is fun in exactly zero ways.

    Then there’s the problem of learned helplessness. You’ll ask them to do X, Y or Z chore and they go “oh I don’t know how” or they’ll give a half hearted attempt to prove to you that they can’t do it, so that you’ll have to from now on, etc.

    I WILL NOT DO IT. I was not born with the ability to cook, clean or organize. I had to learn it on my own, and so do YOU.

    blahblahblah539771

    This. I had to teach my boyfriend, who is 4 years older than me, how to cook for himself, do dishes, clean, etc. when we first lived together (with other people) towards the beginning of our relationship a few years back. I love him to death, and he’s a lot better at domestic things now, thank goodness. But 25 years as an only child getting doted on by his mom really did a number on him. Gotta nip that nonsense in the bud early.

    deesta

  2. Several Take The Opinion Of Their Favorite Roommate Into Consideration

    If your cat loves them more than it loves you.

    Sir_Jorbxnor

    No one will believe this, and it will get buried, but I want to share, so fuck it.

    My dog tried to warn us about my best friend’s ex.

    She was sitting on our couch (in my wife’s normal spot), and we were all talking in the living room. My chihuahua is the most meek, timid, antisocial dog I’ve ever had. She runs if the wind blows too hard. Well this timid dog, in the middle of all of us, ran up to the ex, jumped on her lap, and took a huge shit. Then jumped off and ran. It happened so fast that I assumed her asshole must have had road rash. Everyone just stared in amazement for half a second, before said ex flipped her lid.

    Fast forward six months, ex turned out to be a heroin addict that took my buddy for everything he had that wasn’t nailed down. Thanks, dog, you tried to give us a heads up.

    pissclamato

  3. Of course you get the stray case that makes you wonder if you can scrimp enough change to not need a roommate

    Writes their name on their food in the fridge, and eats your food because you didn’t write your name on yours.

    yellowbythedozen

    This made me laugh. Has this actually happened to you?! (Not at university yet)

    enomancr

    Yeah this actually happened. Years ago, a co-worker was looking to move out of his parents house, and around the same time my GF and I were looking on moving in together. He talked us into renting a house so he could move in with us, which ended up being the start of a series of mistakes that would play out over the course of our one year lease.

    We each bought our own groceries, and we never took anything from him intentionally (might have used margarine he purchased for toast a few times if we were out of butter at best), but because of this he would write his name in permanent marker on everything he’d purchase, including each individual cheese slice in a pack. One day I had picked up a couple of steaks for the GF and I for a special dinner I was planning, and when I went to make them, there was only one left in the fridge.

    Turns out because I didn’t write our name on them, they was considered “free game”.

    yellowbythedozen

  4. One user tried to have others learn from his mistakes

    Oh, man. I have a couple, all gained from painful experience:

    • If someone, before they live with you, constantly comments on how clean your/someone’s place is, when in reality it’s just normal and not that clean at all, take this as a sign that you have very different standards of cleanliness.

    • A little more personal, but- if the person has a history of many friendships lasting less than one year (without excuses like moving or switching jobs), or seems to have a long trail of people that they no longer speak to (orall their old friends are described as crazy psychos), or seems like the greatest person in the world but inexplicably has no friends whatsoever.

    • If someone tells you who they are, listen. For example, when my old roommate said casually in conversation, “Yeah, my mom and my sisters don’t think that I’m capable of feeling empathy, like I’m a sociopath. They used to say that a lot.” The same roommate also once told me that she’s never felt guilt before, and didn’t know what it felt like (she’s almost 30). She also had a restraining order served on her a couple days after she moved in.RED FLAGS.

    • If friends of your potential roommate come to you and ask you if you’ve really thought this through, and mention that maybe you don’t know this person as well as you think you do, listen to those people.

    • If you’ve noticed that this person doesn’t seem to respect the property or personal space of others.

    Those are the biggest ones I’ve experienced.

    Eshlau

  5. And this one is a lesson for the post-college crowd

    In my experience, if you live with a stranger, than sometimes there’s a mutual understanding to be on good behavior. You may never be close, but it may not be an awful situation, either. Sometimes it doesn’t work this way, but in my experience it does a surprising amount of time.

    If you live with a friends, expect every one of their flaws to go up by a multiple of at least 5x. They always are down to drink? Guess what, your house is going to be a party house. Is their car a mess? Guess what, your house is going to be a disaster? Is their homework always late? Don’t be surprised if the rent is late, too.

    And with family, make that 10 – 20x. I knew a guy who always on the lazier side that moved in with his cousin. He then proceeded to stop paying rent and looking for a job. Be very cautious moving in with family.

    HarrysonTubman

  6. This one starts as general advice and gets more specific as it goes.

    Kind of too late to call, but if there’s a fight on move-in day, the whole thing is going to be a fight.

    Also, if one person tries to impose a cleaning schedule or rotation. These things are always doomed for disaster I find, because then there’s documented blame to go around if one person slacks off, even if it’s for a good reason (overloaded with school work, extreme bout of sickness, works 12 hours/day, etc.).

    Finally, if she disappears for four hours and returns bragging about spending $ 200 on professionally done glue-on nails one day, then has her grandparents over the next day bringing food because she’s broke, she has absolutely no understanding of time or money and will not be able to empathise with you when you say you can’t afford the $ 10 it costs to buy a pack of toilet paper because your part-time Wal-Mart job barely covers your share of the rent and your bus pass. She will also eat your food despite labelling and try to flush hard stalks of celery down the toilet.

    Anna_Draconis

  7. Then there’s the in house social aspect of living with someone. Make it clear ahead of time if you’re looking for extended family or just someone to pay the rent on time.

    Drinking habits are a big one. If you have a roommate who’s alright sober but always a problem drunk, consider having to deal with that every time. I’ve had roomates who were great except their drinking was too much.

    Another is expectations. My old roommate thought we’d be that household that goes out every weekend and has grill nights. I just wanted someone to pay rent. While it didn’t cause major problems with me, our third roommate was roped in a lot of social events he didn’t like and caused a great deal of tension

    Lennsik

  8. One user was clearly more experienced than the rest and gave the most in depth advice in the thread

    Having had several roommates, in various housing situations (house, apt, dorms, single-roomie, multiple housemates), my advice would be:

    • At same job for 18 months or more preferably: This helps show financial stability and so you are less likely to get stuck paying extra shares of rent.

    • A reliable vehicle: You don’t have to help them get around.

    • Reasonably clean vehicle: How they keep their car is in my experience a good indicator of how they will keep their personal area.

    • Do you know them already?: Think of the thing that you dislike most about them. That thing they do, that even if they’ve been your best friend for 10 years, still makes your jaw clench. Can you live with that as a daily occurrence?

    • You will likely conflict over washing dishes, cleaning the bathroom, and groceries/food. Do you have any idea how they handle themselves on these things?

    • Would you be okay spending time with someone who matters to you while this person is physically present? I’ve had roomies who interrupt 1-on-1 conversations to put in their thoughts, have horrible odor that permeated the apartment due to only showering once every couple days, and listen to their music loud enough that it interferes with other housemates media usage or family/friend visits.

    • Do they have a shitty significant other that you’re aware of? You’ll have an extremely high chance of also being exposed to that person’s crap also like extra bathroom mess, bottles of stuff in the shower, their clothing sitting around or ending up in your washing machine (assume you’re rooming in a house), cigarette butts if they smoke, sex objects, and so on.

    I’ve had my share of horrible roomies who stunk, left messes, had a live-in partner try to piggy back off of their share of rent, disrespected my family, and straight up opt’d not to pay rent thinking I’d be stuck paying for us both. Hopefully any of this helps someone avoid the same.

    RONINY0JIMBO

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