This Guy Perfectly Illustrates Why Boys Need Women Role Models Too

There are huge instances of sexism that most people (we hope) will recognize, like refusing to hire someone because of their gender, or insisting it’s a woman’s duty to have babies, or refusing to see a woman doctor. These are all real things that still happen in 2018! While many are suitably horrified by such blatant gender discrimination, there’s a whole bunch of other instances of sexism we’re not as quick to call out.

Illustrator Damian Alexander wrote on Twitter that he overheard a woman tell her son he couldn’t have a Wonder Woman doll, telling him it was “for girls.” The incident reminded him of a moment in his own life when he wanted to celebrate a hero who happened to be a girl: the character Matilda from Roald Dahl’s novel of the same name. Since he’s an illustrator, Alexander drew out the whole story as well as his thoughts on how things like this can add up for kids and change how grown men view  women.

He explains that as a kid, he mostly related to girl characters in books, TV shows, and movies, but people treated that as strange because he’s a boy. He remembered one instance where his teacher tried to dissuade him from writing about Matilda as his classmates laughed at his choice of hero:

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But he noticed it was fine with his teacher if the girls chose boy characters as their heroes:

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It seemed like a subtle way to enforce in a boy’s mind that liking or admiring women for their strength, coolness, bravery, or whatever, was somehow bad.

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And that eventually adds up in their minds.

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And gets worse as they age.

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Alexander wants boys to be able to see women heroes as just that: heroic and awesome, just like we encourage girls to, hopefully.

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Alexander originally shared his comic on Tumblr, and it’s gone viral on twitter as well. A lot of men could remember similar incidents from when they were boys:

Though many said how grateful they are to see things changing, even just a little bit:

Let the kid have the Wonder Woman doll, lady. 

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Asian Women Are Sick Of Seeing Themselves Represented This Way In Media

Even when Hollywood is trying to be “neutral” it quickly veers toward bad. This generally means leaning into stereotypes, across age, race, gender, sexual identity, and creating shallow characters based on some pretty messed up ideas. Heck, sometimes they create entirely new stereotypes, like this one about Asian women having to color their hair to be interesting.

The Twitter account @nerdyasians, which purports to cover “everything artful, wonderful & sometimes miserable about asian news & culture” is currently going viral for pointing out a longstanding trope in movies and on TV. Basically, every time a show or film wants to indicate a female Asian character is “edgy” they give her colorful hair streaks:

It happens a lot:

As you can see above, the stereotype is well-documented, but it’s being talked about again in relation to the Deadpool 2 character, Yukio, played by the Japanese-Australian actress Shiori Kutsuna. Yep, she’s got the streak.

But the whole thing also went viral in 2017, when writer Anne Shi went off about it on Twitter, explaining why it’s so offensive. Basically, if you need to color your hair to be cool, what is that saying about all the women with their natural color? And who are these colorful-hair women supposed to be in contrast to?

Shi points out that it is a well-known thing that Hollywood should be hip to by now.

Just look at this Tumblr post.

It’s just a bummer to be put in these two boxes.

Despite being such a long standing issue, people are still discovering the trope through the post from @nerdyasians, and they are having feelings about it:

Some are definitely hearing about it for the first time.

But many have been noticing for awhile, and finding it pretty obnoxious.

There are some Asian women characters who have been both cool and escaped the hair-streak makeover:

But not that many. A hair streak is a small thing, but the fact that it keeps popping up over and over despite criticism from Asian writers, critics, and viewers shows exactly who is still in charge of making these decisions at the top.

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Women Troll Guy Who Accidentally Started Group Chat With All Of Them

Guys, just a heads up. If you’re going to talk to multiple women on Snapchat, don’t make the mistake of creating a group chat when you’re intending to send the same message and photo to those women. That’s what Kyle did. Don’t be a Kyle. 

Twitter user Elizabeth, aka @Springbreak2005, recently took to the social media platform to share the conversation that took to place after Kyle, a college student, accidentally invited a bunch of the women he was talking to into the same conversation. 

They were gentle with Kyle at first…

And then it descended into craziness… 

Looks like they won’t be needing Kyle any more. 

Your loss, Kyle. 

Unsurprisingly, Elizabeth’s tweet went viral with over 100,000 retweets and 380,000 likes. And yes, we got a photo of the cute dog. 

We’re all in agreement. 

Some women missed out on the group conversation. 

Dammit, Kyle. 

Let this be a warning to you all. 

Hopefully he learns from his mistakes. 

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These Women Played Hilarious Pranks On Men Who Creeped Them Online

It seems like there’s no way to stop men as a group from sending unsolicited pics or requesting nudes from women they barely know, but many ladies are taking them on one by one. Anyone faced with online or IRL harassment has strategies for avoiding difficult situations with creepers. Some are merely for safety, but some are also for kicks. If men won’t leave us alone, we should at least get to have some fun. 

Here are some of the creative ways women have figured out how to deal with the weirdoes who won’t take no for an answer—or who don’t even bother asking first.

Or try my favorite move of all: say no, and then block. Extremely satisfying.

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Screenshots Of Women Asking Guys Out On Dates Will Help You Just Go For It

Oloni is a dating blogger with a big following on Twitter and she posed a very difficult challenge to her fans. The Dating Challenge.

All you have to do is be brave enough to ask…

People have answered Oloni’s call and the beating of their own hearts. All they have to do is ask out someone they’re interested in and share the results. This is so scary! We’re a society used to only asking out strangers on dating apps, not humans we meet and see in real life. Oloni is really pushing here.

But a lot of people have been doing it and sharing their screenshots of their successful date attempts. They are so freaking cute:

Though there have been some failures:

Hey, that’s the risk you take when you try to be brave in love! 

And you can always not try.

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Man Posts Bikini Rule On Twitter And Women Weren't Having It

A man on Twitter posted a statement that encouraged women to respond in an empowering way. 

The women responding gave this man a piece of their minds, and their bodies in bikinis. 

Other women shared their actual weight and a photo of them in a bikini.

One twitter user shared her full expression on the matter.

It’s safe to say that all of these women confidently clapped back!

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23 Women Share The Worst Things A Guy Did On Their First Date

Going on a first date is one of the most nerve-wrecking experiences imaginable. But imagine for a second that when you get to the restaurant, you quickly realize that the other person is completely insane. The women of Reddit recently decided to share the worst stuff they’ve had to put with guys…

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My wife told me this one yesterday, about her older sister on a first date when she was a teen.

The guy asked her to show up wearing red, anything red. She wore a red skirt with red nails. He drove her to a well known make out spot and tried to convince her to dance beside the car while he played “Lady In Red” from the tape deck. As I understand, she wasn’t impressed.

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If you’re going to ask a girl about her hobbies, don’t spend the next couple of minutes shitting on her hobbies. The one-up game isn’t nice.

Was on a date just last week actually

“Whats your favorite thing to make?”

“I’ve been told I make a really good medium rare steak”

“Medium rare? So all you do is control the temperature? That’s not impressive.”

“…Do you like to cook?”

“No. I don’t see the need to cook. I can just go to a restaurant and buy food. Haha. Why try to make a steak when you can go to a restaurant and get a good one?”

I think with that comment he was trying to show off that he had money to always go out to eat? I have no idea. But jokes on him, what I like to do on later dates is invite the guy over for a home cooked meal. It’s a subtle way of getting a guy over to my place. But that wasn’t going to happen with this one.

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Ask to wear matching outfits. I wish I was kidding.

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“He initiates a dinner date. Dinner date ends up being with his extended family. Since he drove us, I get stuck back at his mom’s home with extended family while he disappeared somewhere. I’m not even socially comfortable around my own extended family.”

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One time, a guy asked me out and showed up in those toe shoes.

Didn’t realize it was at the top of my “no no” list until it happened.

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Take you to his grandmother’s house and ask her for money to pay for the date…

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Don’t flirt with the waiter. And the girl sitting next to us. And my roommate…

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Wear too much cologne. Be on your phone. Talk about your ex. I had a man who brought her up and said I reminded him of her. Ive also had men just talk about how much they hated their exes it’s just awkward.

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Trying to fingerblast me at dinner

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Take me to your place. A guy did it once, no warning after we went out to eat. I had to ask where we were driving when I assumed he was talking me back to my car and he drove in the other direction.

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Don’t take your date to olive garden, slurp your soup up really really fast, use your finger to get the remaining traces out of the bowl and lick your fingers, and then request two more soup refills in a row so i have to endure this torture again and again

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Ask, “Are you a natural blonde?” then shift your eyes to my crotch. Shudders

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I once went on a first date where I got into the guys car and he started drifting through the busy streets in an urban area and refused to stop to let me out of the car. He didn’t wear shoes and brought me to Carl’s Jr. for dinner (which I paid for). As we were driving by an “adult entertainment” store on our way back to my car he asked if I wanted to stop in and go shopping.

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Point out hickies that another girl gave you 3 days prior. Text the hickey girl to tell her you’re on a date with me, then tell me about texting her.

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Riding around on/bragging about the brand of your hoverboard. Also, don’t stick your tongue in a girl’s ear ten seconds after kissing her for the first time.

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Do not say you’re in love with her on the first date.

It comes off as creepy more so than sweet.

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Don’t speculate what color hair and eyes the kids will have.

Seriously–I hadn’t been through one meal with the fellow and he already thinks I’ll bear his children? Yikes!

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18. 

Call me “woman”.

Did you already forget my name? Is it a weird power thing? I don’t get it.

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Ask whether the girl had waxed or shaved her private parts. Then, upon hearing no, tell her you have a razor in your backpack.

I noped out of that one right quick.

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Don’t try to ‘neg’ me and think I won’t notice.

Don’t try any of those art of seduction techniques, for that matter. The only guys who would look them up tend to be the ones who are too socially awkward to execute them without it being freaking obvious. It just comes across as dishonest.

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Grab a solid handful of your ass cheek as if it were the most appropriate greeting to give your date.

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Late to the party, but still. Don’t bring your 5yo child and tell him “she’s your new mommy “. Nope nope nope.

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23.

Wear skin-tight leggings covered in cats flying through the cosmos.

That was a weird night.

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17 Women Talk About The Most Romantic And Unique Presents Their Boyfriends Have Given Them

There’s nothing like getting a gift from someone, except giving a gift. It sounds cheesy but to see the look of happiness on a person’s face when you give them a gift is one of my favorite things in the world to do. When you see someone totally surprised and completely happy with something you’ve just handed them…man…there’s no better feeling.

In a recent Reddit post, these girlfriends got together to share the most unique and romantic gifts their boyfriends ever got them. So if you’re looking for ideas to show that special someone how much you care, take notes.

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While not traditionally romantic, my SO took care of all of my little needs when I was overseas for two weeks. Gas tank filled, apartment spotless, laundry done, plus a bottle of my favorite wine waiting for us. I was so blown away by all of attention to detail!

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Maybe it wasn’t really unique but the way he presented it was really original.

He gave me a cube made of tissue packages and when I opened it there was an external hard drive with all sorts of things on it that I had wished on a list the months before. (he just told me to keep a list of the things I wanted, had no clue he was planning to do with this, thought he’d forget like most guys.) The folders all had titles like “to the most beautiful woman in the world”.

Another time he sent me to the store while he waited outside and when I came out he had screwed a drink-holder on my bike.

Today he plopped my favorite kit-kats (peanut butter) in my bag while I wasn’t looking and it was such a pleasant surprise, because I hadn’t eaten any or even talked about this with him in months.

None of the presents are unique or even particularly expensive but the way he gifts them is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced.

Update: For those in the US without any access to peanut butter Kit Kats, my SO advises try a jar of peanut butter and regular Kit Kats.

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Favorite present from my now husband was when we first started dating. He wrote down dates and places of different things we had done together on little pieces of paper and put them in a little jar… i.e. ‘first kiss – 9/8/14 Hibernian Cafe’. It was adorable. I still have it and read through it sometimes.

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We were once out walking at night and I saw someone suddenly approaching us very deliberately and quickly. I of course did the natural thing to do when one is startled by another person, screamed loudly and jumped backwards a good 5 feet.

Turns out it was just our reflections in a shop window.

He got me a mirror for my birthday with “Don’t be Scared” written on it.

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He took me to an arcade and bought me like $ 100 worth of tokens and we played the same game for hours and then bought lots of the little cheap prizes. I still have them all, including a little mood ring with hearts on it, and a lamp that’s a shark that lights up different colors.

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So, my first real boyfriend was an amazing man that listened to me and really cared about me. I like to tell stories about how my brothers and I grew up. One day I mentioned that every Christmas, I would fall asleep to the sound of my dad watching Monster Truck Jam on TV. Partly because of that memory, I love monster trucks. My boyfriend bought us tickets to go see them in person. He hated monster trucks. He hated the noise, the crowd, everything. But every year for my birthday, he bought tickets and took me to see them. It’s unique and romantic because I don’t know of many guys willing to forgo their own comfort like that for someone else. And he listened to me and surprised me with something that he knew would mean a lot to me. :’) That goofball.

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It wasn’t the gift, it was the sentiment. The major one that stands out was when my 2nd husband proposed.

It wasn’t formal or expected. It was on my 40th birthday and he gave me a gold ring. But it’s what he said.

“I love you, SFNB. I want nothing more for you on your birthday than for you to be happy. I want to spend the rest of my life with you.”

We were only dating 1 year. While it was too soon, the words he spoke…I have no words to describe my inner reaction. I knew. I just knew. The engagement was 4 years long.

In comparison, my first husband would gift me nice things for my birthday but then hold that over my head as he behaved badly saying, “But I spent X amount of dollars on that gift!” and especially his proposal was something along the lines of “Well, I guess I’m supposed to propose marriage to ya. SO yeah. Here’s the ring.”

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For my high school graduation, my parents got me this frame that had the letters cut out to spell out the name of my high school…like this: https://themomentsthatmatter.com/custom-letter-mats/

It was one of my favorite things in my bedroom but two years later, my house burned to the ground and I lost everything. For my birthday after that happened, my college boyfriend handmade another frame like the one my parents got me, but spelled out the name of our college. It was definitely one of the top presents he’s ever gotten me in the past 8 years of our relationship.

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I am a true, real, female sexy lady (and currently hoping to find a new boyfriend through reddit)

The one thing my ex did that completely swept me off my feet was send me his personal banking information, credit card numbers and social security number

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Last year my boyfriend bought me a jersey cow. It’s not really unusual for our life style but I imagine not everyone ends up with a cow for Christmas.

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SO got me a bunch of socks for V day one year. I love socks. The diamond editions of the Disney movies when they come out of the vault. He’s gotten me a jar that looks like Sally’s Deadly Nightshade one from A Nightmare Before Christmas.

He gets me video games he knows I’ll like, buys me books he thinks I’ll be into. He got me a really nice laptop one year. A kitten. Oh, a gun! That was sweet bc I needed one and he worries about me.

We’ve been together 10 years so he knows me probably better than I know myself. These are just some of the more memorable ones.

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The greatest, most romantic gift you can give your girlfriend is your attention and by that I mean, PAY ATTENTION to what makes her happy. Yes, it’s a cliché, but it really is the thought that counts. All of the best gifts I can remember receiving over the years, were ones that were special only to me. Read down this thread and you’ll see that the things being mentioned weren’t that awesome or romantic in and of themselves – they were romantic because they had meaning to the woman they were given to. Not only will it be something she likes, but you will also demonstrate that you have been paying attention and want her to be happy…i.e. the quickest way to a woman’s heart 🙂

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My engagement ring has our birthstones inside the band instead of engraving it. Its the best present I have ever received.

He also once got me new wheels for my car and that was super awesome.

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A battle axe for our anniversary.

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honestly for me its was just a random candy bar outa the blue. i was having a not so good day and he went to the store for groceries, he came back and handed me some reeses and said i saw these and thought about you and thought you might like them, do you want them now or for me to put them in the freezer for you? it made me happy he thought about me and brought them to me. he could have just put them in the freezer since thats my preferred way to eat them, but he want to hand them to me instead of just saying “i got some reeses they are in the freezer if you want them” the other just felt so much more romantic and caring. and then he ate one later when i was feeling better, in front of me, cause he could…..

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There’s the big things; for my birthday he organised taking me to the New Forest in a luxury hotel, with treatments organised, someone to babysit the kids and all our meals taken care of and organised. Total surprise, phoned my boss and dealt with the time off, packed my case and just took me for a drive. Was totally amazing and when we got there, a bottle of champagne chilling on the table which was the same brand we had on our wedding day.

But the little things; he gets out of bed before me to put the heating on and brings me a cup of tea each morning. He regularly surprises me with flowers, just supermarket ones most often when he’s been out picking things up, or my favourite magazine (which is like £1; I love it because it has puzzles in the back that I can actually do), a dessert for just us to share when our beastly children have gone to bed, a bottle of wine because it had a funny picture on the front, or rather, he annotates the bottle with his own artwork (dicks, he draws dicks usually)… they mean everything and make me feel like he cares about me.

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I was sick and he brought me medicine, fruit and my favorite snacks. Stayed to make sure I was okay. Showing someone care and love when they feel disgusting and horrid does ton of romance wonders

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Women Of Color Are Obliterating Delta For Discriminating Against A Doctor Onboard

As if the state of race relations in the United States wasn’t dismal enough, Delta Airlines royally screwed up last weekend by nearly letting a passenger die — all because the flight crew refused to believe that Dr. Tamika Cross, a young woman of color, was an actual doctor who could come to said passenger’s aid. 

Cross’ Facebook post about the blatant discrimination has since gone viral, receiving over 40,000 shares and endless comments. 

Now people, particularly women of color in the medical field, are showing their support for Cross (and teaching Delta a lesson) by posting photos of themselves at work with the hashtag #WhatADoctorLooksLike. 

Whether they’re wearing the coat…

…Or regular clothes (they don’t always wear the doctor outfit ~sarcastic gasp~). 

Also, it looks like Delta’s over 150 years overdue on figuring this out. 

So, Twitter kept on coming with the examples. 

And even tried to put it in terms that Delta might understand.  

…Because this SHOULD NOT be necessary. 

So Delta (and everyone) take Twitter’s sage advice: 

And may all women of color, especially those in the medical field, remember: 

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Eric Trump Says Strong Women Like His Sister Don't 'Allow' Themselves To Be Sexually Harassed

Its been pretty easy for me to stay politically neutral this election cycle because I’m voting for the Giant Meteor to come in and do what’s right.  Some folks think I have a pretty negative outlook on things, but I digress.

You see, when Donald Trump was asked what would happen if his daughter. Ivanka Trump, found herself being sexually harassed in the workplace, his response was:

“I would like to think she would find another career or find another company if that was the case.”

You heard right, folks!  When it comes to sexual harassment, if the lewd comments and uninvited advances make the victim uncomfortable, then they should be the ones to leave.  

Surely though, his son, who is much younger and more connected to the favorite Trump daughter, would take a different stance on the topic.  

When a CBS host asked Eric if he thought that bringing the harassment to the attention of human resources was a better answer, he and his haircut answered

And yet somehow, Eric manage to make things worse

“Ivanka is a strong, powerful woman. She wouldn’t allow herself to be objected to it. And by the way, you should certainly take it up with human resources. And I think she definitely would, as a strong person. At the same time, I don’t think she would allow herself to be subjected to it.”

It’s like the old saying goes; From a bad crow, a bad egg.  I’m sure someone in the campaign is going to ‘clarify’ this faux pas in the next day or two since the premise behind being sexually harassed has someone saying or doing something without permission to begin with.  Blaming the victim is obviously not the answer to sexual harassment in the workplace.  Not by a long shot.

People tweeted their disgust the blatant victim-blaming the Trumps have pushed

 Waiting to hear how we’ve all taken his quoted answer out of context.

(h/t wp)

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